Living with human conflicts in this impure mundane world, if one still
clings to hatred or ignorance, he/she could never get away from suffering. To liberate
from suffering and to attain happiness, you have to destroy all hatred in you. This
is a way to purify your mind. This method of unleashing yourself and purifying the
mind is called "the virtue of joyful let go."
Joyful let go is an act of being happy to forgive all wrong doings that others have
done to us. It's also a joyful giving up of fame, wealth, beauty, and even our own
life if it brings benefits to other beings. Having forgiveness, our mind is carefree.
Our heart would beat in the same rhythm as other people's heart. The joyful let go
would give us the pleasantness and serenity.
The darkest and most painful life on this earth is the life of the person who's always
cranky and resentful. His/her eyes are frowned and the face is always covered with
wrinkles to reflect the uneasy going personality. Whoever still holds resentment inside
would have his/her heart and lungs burned out. What could be worse than having your
heart and lungs burned? What could be uglier than having a face that is always grouchy
or pessimistic? If we get mad on every unwanted matter in this life, then for sure
our life is full of resentment and hatred. For example, Ty curses at Than. Than tries
to revenge by using uglier language to curse at Ty. At first, they exchange their
anger through words. Later, it becomes a fist fight. Finally, they revenge each other
by using sharp weapons. The hatred started between the two. Then, it becomes the hatred
between two families and even the relatives of both sides. As it grows, when will
it ever end? The Buddha had said, "Repay hatred with hatred, the hatred will elevate.
But repay hatred with compassion, the hatred will be terminated." One, who carries
hatred, tends to think that others would hurt him/her. Therefore, he/she always lives
in fear. Only the one who uses compassion to repay the hatred could terminate the
mind of hatred in others. Like the story of Ting Zhang of Liang dynasty. His neighbor
was jealous to destroy his crops. He "revenged" it by exertively taking care of his
neighbor's crops. This act had ended the neighbor's hatred. What could be happier
when one has a generous heart to forgive others' mistakes? When our mind and heart
have no more question and hatred, we truly live in happiness. A pleasant person would
have these traits: the delighted face, nice speech, pleasant acts, respectful and
adorable appearance. He/she could hardly be unhappy, therefore, he/she stays young
and lives longer. There's an old quote: "The hatred and resentment are like viruses
that invade humans to make them look uglier, older, and short-lived. On the other
hand, love and compassion are the stream of holy water falling into the people's heart
to make them prettier, younger, and live longer."
Fame, wealth, and beauty in this life are the traps waiting to hurt people. They're
capable of attracting people to lead them from enthralling to suffering. It's like
the eels getting trapped because of a good decoy. Most people think that chasing after
fame, wealth, and beauty is a happiness. But they don't realize that the more they
chase, the more suffering they will get. Here, a young man is sitting under a big
tree. Is it because he just fell from the ladder of fame? There, a young lady is standing
sadly next to the river. Is it because she is suffered with an uneasy loving relationship?
The point is people suffer much in life because of their indulgence in fame, wealth,
It's not easy to terminate indulgence. It's even harder to joyfully let it go. Whoever
is unattracted to good forms or good sounds is a superman. Zen master Fu Yun had said,
"...hearing good sounds or seeing good forms is like a rose growing from a stone.
Seeing fame or wealth is like the dusts get in the eyes." Anyone attains this concept
would truly attain the happiness. On the statue of Maitreya Buddha, we could see five
kids disturbing him in different ways... But he still pleasantly smiles. This image
represents the person who could fully let go the five aggregates. Why shouldn't he
smile when he is unattracted to external forms? His mind is always pleasant, therefore,
his face should always reflect the joy.
Wealth, beauty, and fame are external factors, therefore, it's not that hard to let
them go. However, it's much harder to let go this body, which people adore the most.
Because they adore it so much, they have committed many sinful acts. Conversely, "Because
of sentient beings, Bodhisattvas could let go of their body. They could do it easier
than a greedy person who's willing to let go a handful of rice" (described in "Discourse
of a Great Man"). People who could risk their life for sentient beings would be careless
about the existence of their body. This perception would make them liberate from the
suffering of the body. Lao Tzu had said, "All disasters are caused by the existence
of the body. No body means no disasters." It's true because if we are not self centered,
what kind of disasters could make us suffer? The joyful let go of the body in saving
sentient beings is the virtue of the upmost joyful let go.
In conclusion, we need to joyfully let go all resentment and hatred so that our heart
is lighter. This is a joy for typical humans. The joyful let go of wealth, beauty,
and fame for a tame mind is the joy of liberated individuals. The joyful let go of
the body to relieve sentient beings and bring them the happiness is the joy of Bodhissattvas.
The Buddhists, who are determined to terminate suffering and seek for happiness, should
practice the virtue of joyful let go in the specified order. A bit that you could
let go is a bit of happiness you could gain. When you could completely let everything
go, you could attain the full happiness. Obviously, suffering and happiness are not
blessed or giving by anyone. We create them by ourselves.